ME

Hey. I just wanted to follow up with you. I left a weird sms yesterday and did not really explain anything. Unsure if it even reached you. I would wanna know if my gf was cheating on me so I am telling you. You can check it yourself, do not even have to trust me. I'll only keep this email account up 2 more days though. Please at least acknowledge you got the email within this time.
I got your email/phone number off some basic public research, I don't mean to freak you out. Truly am just trying to help, I am a cyber student like her. Like I said, I'd wanna know if it was happening to me.
I'm sorry to break the news like this. Hope to hear from you, I can provide deets.

HER
Hey what's up? This is Eliza, I didn’t receive any sms messages yesterday as far as I’m aware. Please, I’d like to see some details if you can.

ME
Hi I'm x.
I stayed up late to write this for you.
I am glad I sent an email then. Forget the sms, I restated what I needed to via email anyway. I do not know Finn too well but from what I have seen, she has been entertaining a man named Parker from class. It is clear he likes her and she is enjoying herself with him. Always super touchy & together whenever possible, he is often making sexual & direct remarks and she reciprocates. Publicly and also in confidence to friends.
They have been alone together and in each other's cars.
On her Twitter she mentioned falling in love with a straight guy and having to reveal that she was transgender to him, and he started hating her. She was talking about Parker unless you are straight and antitrans?.
You could tell there was distance between them for a bit too. It only took about a week until they were back to lovebirds. They do not hide it at all. I have a screenshot of the Twitter post if you would like.
This is all my eyewitness account as well as a friends. I do not know much more. I'm sorry.
Do you have any mutual friends with her. Close or otherwise whom attend Tulsa Tech? Maybe they have seen or know more and you can inquire with them privately. There you can figure out if this is serious or not through a more reliable source of info like that versus me. All of this is ongoing and is done in complete public so people would have saw.
She's mature enough to know what she is doing. I just thought you should too.
I'm not sure if it goes any further, I'll be up front, I do not know her like that.
Please reach back if you would like to see the Twitter post screenshot, it is now deleted or archived on her account.
I am not sure if confronting her would just make her hide her actions more or get her to change. Your choice to make.
Good luck reach back soon.
I cannot get involved in person. I try and keep to myself. I'm sorry.
p.s. if you think all of this is fine or does not bother you, please reach back with that and I will leave asap. sorry to bother you.

HER
Ah, ok. Thank you for staying up late to message me, it means a lot. I’ve been a bit concerned about the Parker situation recently as well. I have seen/confronted the Twitter post, she claimed that was “being dramatic for twitter” and quickly deleted it which got me a bit concerned. I also heard about the point in time they were upset with each other, which I believe was mainly because he somewhat admitted to have feelings for her, this was also my first time really hearing about him outside of just being someone at Tech.
I remember some instances of them getting in each others cars that I’ve heard about, one was for some makeup Finn wanted to put on Parker and I know they have hung out after school, specifically after they had made up from their situation as well.
Thank you for bringing this is my attention, I’ve had my concerns about this person but this helps validate them a bit. I have some mutuals from Tulsa Tech that I believe would’ve told me if the situation was very serious but I think this is enough to at least get a mild confrontation out of her. I’d like to hope this is a big misunderstanding, her being touchy with friends is fairly normal, I’ve seen her display that with some other friends to the point they’re concerned it’s cheating when it’s not but what really concerns me is the sexual remarks, as she’s often much more upset about and has cut people off for that before. Do you have any direct quotes or ideas of what they’ve said for example?
I’d hate to confront without any solid evidence and end up throwing nearly 5 years of a relationship now in the trash.

ME

Of course, yes. I would be concerned about the Parker situation Eliza, it isn't as simple as it seems. Glad you saw the Twitter post though. From my understanding based on the timeline in real life, he'd admit to having feelings and she revealed she was transgender around that same time. I can't say how you fall for a guy without it meaning in a romantic way either.
I also did not hear about anything related to makeup, although I am not much of an acquaintance with her directly myself. I have seen them around their cars in the morning and after Tulsa Tech ends. they walk out together often.
The sexual remarks are something, I can only remember a few ideas right now, but given them only being acquainted since 2024, I've never seen someone so comfortable. I promise you on my momma she went along with his comments, smiling and laughing and often reciprocating them.
Some of the topics were mainly about her body which he comfortably says loudly. Just makes it seem like they're seeing each other on the side without calling it a relationship.
He's always hitting on her otherwise in one way or another and she fires back in the same way to him.
This has been going on for many months straight.
I'm glad I brought this to you, this is a pile of shit to deal with I'm sure. I bring this up now as she has already passed her certification from what I've heard, so dealing with this now won't compromise her career.
I also think reaching out to any mutuals directly would be beneficial, It's easy for me to do this email since I'm not a friend of hers but I imagine it's difficult to throw a friend under the bus for behaviour that edges cheating, but does not fully break the threshold.
Mutuals could have confronted her directly as well. It's probably better to explore yourself in these kinds of situations privately, showing you have concern and just being direct about it in regards to Parker. Hopefully real friends who saw those two together at this point would reveal such knowledge to you if they saw anything. It's difficult I'm sure since it'd mean the end of Finn and their friendship. almost like picking sides.
It's an unfortunate thing, especially after 5 years. I thought you were a more recent, more uncommitted relationship given how she acts. She's only ever mentioned you once in class from what I recall. It's better you found out now however, instead of months down the line.
Nonetheless, good luck and I'll let you know if I think of anything else. Please reach back to me when possible if I can be of service & as an acknowledgement to this email.
I've never used protonmail before so just worried on its stability so hope you got this all!.